wow, anyone who's blaming her or saying divorce her is a douchebag. i'm willing to bet anythng that she was sexually abused or raped in her past. so no, **** HER life.

sex before marriage sometimes can unearth these sorts of issues...aren't you glad you waited?

:( some of u guys are assholes... just be nice and caring and patient.

#22, if she's religious enough to have zero sex before marriage then it's not a stretch at all for her to be religious enough to hate teh gayz, leading to denial if that should include her.

I agree with everyone saying that the OP should be patient, respectful and caring. Sometimes guys don't know how women think, just try to be supportive and don't make her do anything she doesn't want to do. Hope it works out! And Congratulations on your marriage, don't worry, things will get better.

#3, #5, i agree. hopefully she'll change..

she was probably just scared... if she's waited this long she's obviously not that comfortable with it... don't worry she'll come around

Stupid religious people pushing their beleifs of "no sex before mariage". And brainwashing girls scaring them to death of a natural and pleasing act (and i'm a girl!) I'd say **** her life like said #55, and it's very likely she had something like that happened (although a good religous brainwash can lead to that too), the dude should'nt just undress and wait, he should go on the hugs part... I can't beleive i've read something about "sticking with someone who can't fulfill your needs".. Oo Besides some touching and kissing and rubbing before mariage is not sex :D He seemed he just met his bride, how long have you waited to get married ? who long did they actually know enough to THINK about living together ?

"btw if she dosent want to have sex i think shes lesbian. just thinking out loud here" If a woman doesn't want to have sex she's gay? She's probably scared it will hurt or she won't like it or be good enough (or as someone said, maybe she was raped/sexually abused). Obviously they should talk about it. Also, some people believe in asexuality as another type of sexual orientation, where you have relationships and love people, but have no interest in sex.

There's nothing wrong with waiting until marriage to have sex. Having sex before marriage isn't a test drive, it's driving the car all the way from Yukon to Florida and back again. sigh She's probably extremely nervous, because she's scared it's going to hurt. Or maybe she thinks your really big and aren't going to fit. You just need to talk about it with her. I agree that sex should at least be discussed before you get married. But you should wait until you're married to have sex.