something tells me it wasnt WE decided to wait to get married more like SHE convinced you to wait thats too bad though your suppose to be married for like two years before you dont have sex

There's nothing wrong with waiting. And remember, this isn't the end of the world- ask your wife what's wrong, talk about it. Like many other intelligent commenters have said, if she reacted that way, either she's scared or something may have happened to her that she's too scared to divulge about. Try to help her and eventually it'll work out. Everyone else, well, you know what I think of you pissheads.

Nothing against waiting, what's done is done....but I see a lack of communication here. They really needed to have a serious talk, or a series of serious talks, about sex in their marriage so they could be sure they were on the same page. More than one marriage has broken up because of sexual incompatibility! Let's not just blame the guy here, too. She could have a lot of unrealistic ideas in her head and can't stand the idea of actually facing reality. She could also be the victim of a "sex-is-bad" type of thinking. (I'm assuming they're religious/conservative because, in my experience, those are the only folks who actually wait until marriage these days...) At any rate, I foresee a visit to a marriage counselor in their future, if they don't want to be miserable and resentful all their lives.

@#69 you can be intimate without having sex. OP i would state my opinion, but pretty much everyone who has said to talk and be understanding, etc. said it for me.

I think it's ridiculous for people to say YDI because you waited until marriage, not everyone has the same views about sex, nor should they. The only reason I'd say YDI is if you never talked about it before, and just expected to jump right into it on your wedding night. But I am not going to assume anything, and instead just say good luck, hope things work out.

Give it some time and discussion. Don't start with intercourse -- work your way through the bases. If she is too uncomfortable to continue at some point and won't go beyond (after a reasonable amount of time, several weeks or months), you'll have two choices: cheat on her or get a divorce. Or if, at that point, you are getting an acceptable level and variety of sex, regardless of whether that includes intercourse, you could leave it at that.

ive read this before on here must be fake

lmao wow, that's sad

LOL, send her to my house, i'll figure out if she's gay or not for ya

awwww poor baby (her)!!! Give her time and dont push her