#92 your logic is somewhat flawed, I mean not wanting your boyfriend or husband to watch **** is reasonable, but as long as their fantasy is purely within their own head it should be fine, it's not saying that the girl isn't good enough, she just might not be there, might not be in the mood, their are many reasons where it's completely justifiable to **********

#92, you must be a delight to be married to.

YOU do not **********... So HE shouldn't? How selfish is that? Are you seriously that sexually insecure that if he masturbates you'll feel like you're not good enough for him? That is a problem that you have to solve, my dear. Masturbation is about taking some time for yourself and just relax. My boyfriend is an excellent lover (second best I've ever had), and we go at it like rabbits, but there are still moments where I just want to stay in bed, touch myself and have a quick, quiet ****** before I go to sleep. I assume he does the same thing, because it's only natural.

My husband has only ever jerked himself off twice in our entire relationship and both times I'm fully aware of. The first time I was away at college and therefore inaccessible but he did it to a picture OF ME so I knew what he was fantasizing about. The second time was while he was lying in bed watching me sleep and it was only because he didn't want to wake me. He failed and it quickly turned into a two person show rather than him flying solo. As for the "relax quick ****** before you go to sleep" good for you, but that's not how I look at it. To me, masturbation is oh yay, good while it's happening but when it's over you're still ALONE and SAD in your bed and curling up next to nothing but a pillow. Thus, I've never done it and I never will.

Actually I am a delight to be married to because as I stated above, my husband and I have communicated very in depth about our sexual expectations. Am I insecure about things? Yes, I'll be the first to own up to my insecurities. But, he understands those insecurities and instead of going "Well, you just need to fix that" he says "I understand and I don't have to watch **** or self pleasure because my wife's sex drive is so high she never turns me down no matter the circumstances."

I dislike the "i dont do something so you arent allowed to do it either" mentality im usually one for the opposite of it. Meaning: "If you forbid me something you cant do it yourself" But as long as you guys talked it through and are happy its totally your business. For me personally i couldn't have a partner that doesn't want me masturbating. Because for me Masturbating and Sex with my partner and other persons are totally independent desires that and doing one of those things cant fulfill the desire for the others.

120 - Lol, you're funny! The joke about people masturbating ending up "SAD" was my favorite. I would think they actually end up with a big smile on their face.

"Sad and alone"? Sure, there are some people out there who can have those feelings, but that is tied to life circumstances rather than the sole practice of masturbation. I've never felt sad or lonely after an masturbatory ******, even in the moments where I was single: I appreciate my own company enough to not have to depend on someone else to feel pleasure (specially because even in a relationship sex is a bonus, not a requirement set on stone. "Thou shalt pork thy significant other!"). I'm glad your husband accepts your imposition, despite its inherent selfishness, but you cannot reasonably think that the OP deserved being dumped by his now ex girlfriend because he didn't mention that he likes to jerk off periodically (like most people do).

Alone and sad? Never had that happen when I **********. I still have my wonderful boyfriend of 8 years by my side.

#106 Ha-ha-ha! :)) Nicely put! #92 Masturbating is normal. Even if you have a relationship. Unfortunately, the poor sexual education we receive, the stupid **** movies and taboo which surround this issue, make it very hard for a man/woman to have a healthy understanding and opinion about sexual relationships, fantasies and masturbating. Because we, as a human being, have a very complex mind, with imagination and creativity, because of evolutionary psychology (look it up, it's really important) and promiscuity advertised and overly used around us, certain expectations and fantasies arise in each individual. Each and every one of us is looking to be happy in life, and sex it's really important. As such, at some point in time you need to take matters "in your own hands". Not because the partner doesn't satisfy us, or because it's something wrong with our head. It's because, just like someone pointed out (wrongly) "as long as the fantasy stays in the head, it's ok. It's not cheating." But when we ********** it's "like cheating". Wrong! This kind of thinking it's what stops us to share with our partner some fantasy we have. I used to think like that, and didn't share with my girlfriend a fantasy, or a position that I'd like with her. And, then I'd **********. But, the relationship suffered. When I broke the ice, and finally said (what I stated before), she was relieved and she told me her fantasies and what pleased her more. Afterwards, everything was better than before. Stop being afraid of opening up, stop being judgmental, stop being unsatisfied. Just accept who you are, what you like and have the guts to tell your partner. It's mutual beneficial. OP I think she watched "Don Jon" and got the entirely wrong message from the movie.

As stated numerous times, I am very open with my husband/partner about our fantasies and am willing to try anything he wishes within reason. (ex:Threesomes are a no no because of prior bad experience which he is aware of) So, not unsatisfied, which is why I reiterate about communicating and also why I stand firm in my statement of masturbation should be unnecessary if you are in a relationship that is fulfilling. If you feel that is judgmental, fine. I'm not looking down my nose or condemning anyone that masturbates. It's not for me, in fact the very idea of it is a turn off, but I know most people do it. But once again why I say communication is what is they key in all matters. You can't go into a relationship assuming your partner is going to be cool with something if you never discuss it, thus my vote of why OP deserves it. He doesn't deserve it because he was jerking off, he deserves it because there was an obvious lack of communication somewhere.

I think we all know this persons husband does it when she's not around. Let the ignorant bliss continue for you OP.

You know your husband jerks off in the shower, and when you're not there.

It doesn't always have to be sad and lonely. My boyfriend and I ********** together sometimes. We watch **** together too. No big deal.